Revelations: God’s Plans & Purpose

When my Mom died in 1983, it caught me completely off-guard and totally unprepared.

I was 14 when we found out she had a terminal illness in February (on the 14th – Valentines Day to be exact. Maybe that’s why I have a distaste for this “holiday?”).

It was a rough 9 months to watch her waste away.

At the time of her “prognosis” I’d never been to a funeral, I’d never seen a dead person.

The first person I knew of that had died was my Grandma. I only had one G-ma I ever knew. She had passed a few years before. At the time, I was probably about 11 years old. My Dad had flown back to the funeral and I stayed home with Mom.


Two and a half years after I watched Mom be “laid to rest,” (in November ’83) my Dad collapsed at work.

(I hadn’t been living with him at home at the time. It is a very long story I might be able to expand on later, now is not the time. I don’t even know if this blog is the place. I am wrestling with God about how far to take this story on this blog.)

When Dad was in the hospital, I was still mourning mom’s death and completely lost. Dad’s passing was sudden. He was in ICU for about 5 days. I was 17. My world completely “shifted” at the time my Mom died, and it was about to be shifted again. This time I was being swept from a whirlwind into a hurricane. 

The day Dad died, I felt like I sank into a black hole. I was caught in a vacuum of nothingness. In hindsight, it was frightening.

Not frightening like the movie theater kind of fear, but frightening like the nightmare you have that you can’t seem to wake up from – and even once you do wake up your reality is so distorted you aren’t sure where you are! You try to make yourself stay awake, even though it would be impossible to get back to sleep. In this case, once the nightmare began for me, it lasted for over a year.

A Spiritual Search

I have been searching for answers for decades. Because God is the Creator of our souls, our minds, spirits and bodies. He knows each of us better than we know ourselves.

The fact that I am here writing is something only he could have orchestrated.

How do I know this is true? Because I survived not just my parents deaths but different forms of abuse after I was placed in the care of others (another long “memoir” story.)

Without a doubt, I know that the hand of God has been involved in my life since the start. His mighty angels surrounded me (even when I could not see them).

A fellow blogger, Dana, has been writing about surviving the death of her Dad. It was her post earlier today that prompted me to write this.

I’ve also been reading other stories of those who are currently struggling through loss and trying to handle grief. It doesn’t matter how old you are: 5 years old or 90. Having to let go of somehow you love is HARD and difficult to comprehend…let alone move forward and “thrive.”

I am going to be blunt. Grief sucks. There is an old cliche that is so overused but continues to make its rounds and that is: “time heals all wounds.”

Pardon my language, but I call “BULL!”

Time does not heal wounds. It shouldn’t! We can’t turn back the clock. God did not design time to work that way. Time MARCHES on!

Our wounds exist for a purpose, that much I have learned. Without challenge, without heartache, we learn nothing. This thought might not be “popular” but truth doesn’t seem to be nowadays.

After 30 years of praying to understand why I had to let my parents go when I did, why I’ve cried Oceans of tears each time my heart, mind, spirit and body were broken…I finally received revelation recently:


“God, Why did you take my parents away from me? Why did you let me become an orphan?”


“Daughter, you have always been precious to me. Your parents loved you deeply. They did not want to leave you, and I shared that with you years ago. As to you why you were ‘orphaned’ – that too was part of my plan.

Though your relationship with your parents was critical during your childhood – your closeness to them would have, eventually, become your undoing. I know this doesn’t make sense right now.

The plans I had for you – the plans I have prepared for you (Jeremiah 29:11) are in place and You ARE progressing. I know you felt cheated by their death. I know your time with them FELT very short time.

However, I needed to draw you closer to ME.

I did not relish witnessing the things you went through. I was there, through it all. I have collected every tear. I have recorded every spoken word and deed, every thought. You spent High School enduring refining fires – fires that no one knew about. You walked through darkness and you have battle scars.

Crying is ok, the tears you once shed out of betrayal will now be tears that help you heal. The words you write with my leading will help others heal.

Rachel, told you that you are stronger than you know, you have heard others say this before and still a seed of doubt exists.

The truth is, I needed the events to unfold all those decades ago as they did in order to build your mind, body, soul and spirit for what IS to come.


Only the Strong will survive and thrive. Only those totally grounded in ME will be prepared for what lies ahead.


Why did your parents die so young?

Because I NEEDED you to FOCUS on me.

I needed you to not be distracted by the things of this world or by the hopes that your parents had for you.

Know this, Your experience is not and will not be wasted.

Your losses will bring others HOPE  — Watch and See.


I needed you to know that I am the Alpha and Omega, The First and the Last. I needed you to walk through the valleys and face the most difficult hardships to recognize that through it ALL – you would not walk alone.

You never have, you never will.

My Son and The Holy Spirit are with you.”


God will never leave us or forsake us. The sting of death is real but our tears, our heartache are temporary because Jesus conquered death! 

BELIEVE in Jesus and His work on the cross;

as He said, “It is Finished!”








8 thoughts on “Revelations: God’s Plans & Purpose

  1. Kenzel! You brought me to tears. I too was orphaned and brought up by sisters. I battled and believed He punished me for some reason. As I was reading it’s as though He was talking to me. I now believe, through all of my battles, He was there but I never acknowledged Him until now. He is truly our faithful Father. His purpose for us, we may never fully understand, all we can do is have faith, hold on and believe in Him.
    Wonderful post Kenzel!!!❤❤❤❤👍👍☝☝


  2. Thank you for keeping it real. You are exactly correct when you say grief sucks. I am constantly inspired to keep pressing on for what God is calling me to do with my life by the simplicity of your message of staying focused on God. Any loss of someone we love is hard and so sad, I too have lost a parent and a child, there are no answers that make any sense, but I know God’s plans are so much better than I could ever imagine and choosing to trust Him is the best for me. I love you. Never be afraid to share what you sense God wants you to do, because when you walk in obedience, your words have rippling effects. May God continue to bless you.


  3. Kenzel, thanks for sharing this with all of us. I have witnessed similar stories before — one spouse dies and then the other one dies shortly after. Even if I am not here to witness this — I know that when one of my parents dies, the other one will follow quickly — the 2 of them are so dependent on each other and have been married for 58 years.

    Grief is difficult for anyone, no matter what kind of cliche that they throw at you. We would be less than human if we did not feel the loss of loved ones.

    The Lord may be tugging at your heart, as someone may be going through a recent loss or possible one to come soon.

    Blessings & Much Love Sister.


  4. Thank you very much for sharing this with us Kenzel. I haven’t had to deal with losses such as great as yours. God really can turn a horrible situation into a blessing. You have blessed us with this word and your blog!
    Much love to you, 🙂

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    • You’re welcome & thank you, Matt. This blog was all his idea. He asked me to start it.
      Though the losses have been great, he has taught me so much thru them.
      Have u ever read my “Foreshadowing” post? That was the first post I wrote that was RAW for me. I think I cried the entire time & really wrestled with him over “posting” it…guess who got the upper hand!? 😉

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      • Haha! I’ll have to check out that post of yours. My blog was also started because of Him too. I had felt the Holy Spirit leading me here, and I was to make an account and that is when I met all of you lovely people. I cannot wait to meet every single one of you.
        I can guess..God had the upper hand 🙂


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